Mental Toughness For Modern Life

Have you ever wondered how would survive in athe Vietnam War. Tortured over 20 times during his
hostage situation? Being captured and held as aeight-year imprisonment from 1965 to 1973, Stockdale
hostage by terrorists? What would give you the will tolived out the war without any prisoner's rights, no set
survive and stay alive?release date, and no certainty as to whether he would
Make a mental list of memories, loved ones, beliefs,even survive to see his family again.
techniques that would keep you alive if taken hostageStockdale had an additional challenge. As the highest
or a prisoner of war. In todays uncertain world there isranking officer, he had to also help his own servicemen
a reasonable chance that someone we know will besurvive their ordeals. He instituted rules that would help
one or two degrees removed from a hostage, apeople to deal with torture (no one can resist torture
bomb blast victim or a prisoner of war (POW).indefinitely, so he created a step-wise systemafter x
My own grandfather was a Maori prisoner of warminutes, you can say certain thingsthat gave the men
during World War 2. Taken prisoner by the Germansmilestones to survive toward). He instituted an
during the Crete campaign, he had to endure the harshelaborate internal communications system to reduce
conditions as well as the humiliation of being takenthe sense of isolation that their captors tried to create,
prisoner. A key lesson I learnt from his experienceswhich used a five-by-five matrix of tap codes for
and others was the power of the mind to transcendalpha characters. (Tap-tap equals the letter a,
ones physical situation. A bare cell, little food,tap-pause-tap-tap equals the letter b,
psychological and physical mistreatment. Reducing atap-tap-pause-tap equals the letter f, and so forth, for
human being into an object of no more significance25 letters, c doubling for k.) After his release, Stockdale
than a cockroach. He had to look deep within himselfbecame the first three-star officer in the history of the
to endure his plight and make some sense of hisUS Navy to wear both aviator wings and the
suffering.Congressional Medal of Honor. Like many others, he
Other examples come to mind.lived to tell and inspire others of his POW experiences.
Major James Nesbeth spent seven years as aWhat can we learn from these prisoner of war
prisoner of war in North Vietnam. During those sevenexperiences?
years, he was imprisoned in a cage that wasI believe it illustrates the power of our mind to
approximately four and one-half feet high and five long.transcend our current circumstances. We dont need to
During almost the entire time he was imprisoned hebe a prisoner of war to learn this. We sometimes
saw no one, talked to no one and experience noimprison ourselves with our own fears, our own limiting
physical activity. In order to keep his sanity and his mindthoughts. Thoughts like:
active, he used the art of visualisation.- I can never be rich!
Everyday in his mind, he would play a game of golf. A- I will never get out of this dump!
full 18-hole game at his favourite green. In his mind, he- My life sucks!
would create the trees, the smell of the freshly- I blame my mother for my weight problem!
trimmed grass, the wind, the songs of the birds. HeI would say to the above, toughen up and get a life.
created different weather conditions windy springWeak thinking begets weak results. Feel sorry for
days, overcast winter days and sunny summeryourself for a moment and then get over it. This type
mornings. He felt the grip of the club in his hands as heof repetitive sorry thinking would create a loss of hope
played his shots in his mind. The set-up, thein a POW and lessen their chances of survival.
down-swing and the follow-through on each shot.Also we can create our own internal mind ritual that
Watched the ball arc down the fairway and land atwe can turn into a daily mental discipline. Go inside your
the exact spot he had selected. All in his mind.own mind and create your desired outcomes. Live the
He did this seven days a week. Four hours a day.dream inside your own mind. Change it daily by adding
Eighteen holes. Seven years. When Major Nesbethsomething new. Make it fun. Make it short or as long
was finally released, he found that he had cut 20as you like. 5-10 minutes a day.
strokes off his golfing average without having touchedI believe these inspiring prisoner of war stories shows
a golf club in seven years.us clearly that an enduring faith, an unyielding will to
Another example is Admiral Jim Stockdale, who wassucceed combined with a daily mental discipline gives
the highest ranking United States military officer in theus the power to overcome incredible odds.
Hanoi Hilton prisoner-of-war camp during the height of